Father and Mother. Can we term Father as an antonym of Mother? No never. Father an important identity in every-one's family. Though importance of father is not hidden, yet not much is mentioned or discussed in literature. Have we ever tried to feel and understand the value or significance of father.
Any author can write endless good description and importance of mother. Even saints and poets have paid due respect to Mother. But nowhere have we heard commendation of Father. Some people have tried to mention Father in their articles but most of them describes them as bold stubborn heartless man. It is acceptable that such cold-hearted or soulless father do exists but their percentage would be very less. But what about those fathers who are caring and kind.
Mother has ocean of tears while Father has tons of patience. Mother will cry with you and move away but only father will help you to give consolation. And consolation has more value than tears. We easily remember our Mother for providing our daily needs but we readily forget Father who is the backbone of our livelihood. A mother can cry in front of others while the one who cries secretly on the pillow at night is none other than father. Mother can cry publicly while father can’t even cry. Even when his father dies then also our father do not cry because he has to look after his younger brothers and sisters. Even our father could not cry when his mother dies because he has to give support and solace to his sisters. In case wife passes away then in such situation the responsibility to raise children and to wipe their tears is carried out dutifully by the father.
It is true that Jijabai raised and nurtured Shivaji, but we should also consider the effort put by Shahji. There have been lot many stories featuring devika-yashoda. Devika’s eight child was Lord Krishna and Yashoda plays a key role in Krishna’s upbringing. But let us also give due importance to Vasudev who safely moved Krishna through the flooding river. Lord Ram is Kausalya’s son but it was King Dashrath who died due to son’s separation.
If we look at the mended shoes-sandals of our father then we can realize the true picture of father. If we see the holes in his undershirts or his unshaven beard then we can realize his miser behavior or more better to say his economic way to save penny. Father would buy new jeans for his children but would continue using his old pant. Children might spend 100 to 200 rupees in parlors but father would not think of buying shaving cream rather would use bathing soap for shaving. Sometimes our father will do shaving with only water without use of any shaving cream or soap. Father will never visit dispensary at the very beginning.
Even if father is not capable he will make sure that his children will complete education in medical or engineering. Living a simple and stingy life father will regularly sent money to his children in the hostel.
Father is the the creator of the home and is the ultimate chief master. When exam results are declared everyone remembers mother as she will shower love and blessings, but no-one remembers the father who secretly brings sweets. When child is about to born then lot of importance is given to the pregnant mother but nobody realize the impatience of father who keeps loitering in the hospital corridor.
If we get a burn or small injury then we react saying, “Ohh Maa”, but in case while crossing a road if a truck suddenly apply brakes then we react saying, “Baap re”. For small trouble “Maa” but for major trouble “Baap” comes in picture. When a young son-daughter comes late at night then father keep awake till midnight.
Who understands the true importance of father?
1. Person who loses father in the childhood has to bear lot many responsibilities and has to pine for each and every thing.
2. True value of father is understood by a daughter. A daughter who stay away from home or with her in-laws can surely identify the difference in the sound of her father on the phone.
3. There have been cases where a daughter sacrifices her personal wish and marry a guy of her father’s choice. Do such incidents take place today?
4. There have been occasions during which we remember our parents and bow at their feet and take their blessings.
